Talking to your family about menopause doesn’t have to be difficult or embarrassing. We guide you through the process.

For years women were afraid or embarrassed to talk openly about menopause and often with their families. Family members might notice a change in behaviour, but were unable to explain it. The reality is that menopause makes us work with our emotional brain rather than rational one and this can lead to mood swings which can be confusing for others especially for children.

Obviously it’s a daunting time in a woman’s life. But how do you explain to your family members what you’re going through and why you might be a little moodier than before?

1. Make a Plan
Start by writing down your thoughts about menopause and how it is effecting you. Write down what you would like your family to know about it in a simple and easy to understand way. Let me them know what they can do to help you. It will help to make your thoughts clear and smooth the lines of communication.

2. Talk to a Friend
Talk it through with a friend, preferably someone who is also going through menopause, before you approach your family. It’s good practice and you’ll get feedback.

3. Enlist the Help of Your Partner
If you’re partner already understands what you’re going through, then consider talking to your family about the subject together in a calm and reasonable way. It doesn’t have to be completely serious. Throw in a few jokes to lighten the mood!

4. Be Age-appropriate
Take into account the ages of your children when talking to them. If they’re young for example, use language that they understand and keep to the basics. Providing young children with too much information can be over whelming and anxiety-inducing. It can be frustrating too for older children if they are given too little information.

5. Choose the Right Venue
You might want to talk to your children about menopause in the comfort of your home. If this is the case, consider broaching the subject with young children during an activity such as baking or making crafts together. It makes the talk less formal and implies it’s not a big deal. Older children may benefit from talking on a walk or over a coffee in quiet coffee shop.